Privacy and Data Security

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Privacy and Data Security

Why Privacy Is Important When Planning Your Wedding

Privacy and security are related. In the excited flurry of wedding planning, it's easy to overlook how your personal information—and that of your family and friends—is used in ways that make you and your wedding vulnerable.

It's not uncommon for couples using wedding websites and apps to have their personal information stolen. It's a given that you'll end up on dozens on marketing lists, but sadly personal data is often used for more nefarious purposes. Identity theft, browser hacking, and wedding phishing schemes are rife; there are even criminals who specialize in culling wedding info from couples' websites so they can show up (nicely dressed) to steal wedding gifts, wallets, and vendor equipment.

There's no way to guarantee 100% protection from determined thieves, but there are a few simple ways to protect yourself.

First, be circumspect about how you inform others of your plans, particularly if you believe someone might want to disrupt your wedding. As fun as it is to post your wedding details on Facebook, Pinterest, and Instagram, digital sharing can make you and your wedding vulnerable. It also makes the work of hackers and burglars much, much easier.

Encrypt and password-protect your wedding website. If you're building a free wedding website, tell your provider you need to be able to choose your own passwords (your name and wedding date are commonly used as passwords, which means almost anybody who knows you can easily get access). The same goes for third-party invitation and RSVP sites.

Be wary of wedding apps, registries, and social media sites that aren't encrypted and have no privacy controls (particularly if you're using them on public networks, like those at hotels, wedding venues, and cafes—public networks are easily hacked for passwords and credit card info). Apps are shiny and convenient, but often share your information without your consent, and it's difficult to know if they are built on secure platforms. Like wedding websites, they are mostly monetized by selling your information to marketers, who will then serve you ads for wedding swag, baby gear, home furnishings, and insurance products until death-do-you-part. Your own computer—or even pen and paper—can be just as efficient for wedding planning, though admittedly they're not as cool and modern. You will, however, get a lot less junk mail for the rest of your life.

Digital technology isn't a requirement for your wedding, but a marriage license is. A marriage licenses includes your full legal name, address, birthdate, and mother's maiden name, so don't hand it to just anybody. Officiants and marriage license-issuing notaries have access to all this information, so it's important to choose someone trustworthy for these duties.

As you can see, we think a lot about this stuff. Here are some other ways we protect your information:

  • We don't share your wedding info or photos without your permission.
  • This website uses industry-standard SSL (Secure Socket Layer) encryption. We don't use web-based intakes, third-party contact forms, or ad servers, since they are easily hijacked.
  • We use HIPAA-compliant secure email hosting for sending and receiving your marriage license and wedding data.
  • Your marriage license information and emails are stored with encryption, including encrypted backups.
  • We just don't use wedding apps—we can't verify they are secure, and they don't allow users to control how their personal information is shared. We also don't use photo or messaging apps that require location information, in order to keep your event private.
  • We don't use mobile payment apps or services. We accept digital payment only through established online providers so your credit card numbers and banking information remain private.

We're happy to answer questions about our privacy and security policy, and we wish you a safe and happy wedding day.